People have taught me it isn’t polite or appropriate to speak up for myself. My biggest problem is my mouth. But, the truth is, if I don’t, say how I feel it comes back to haunt me. There is a time and place for everything, and sometimes the chance to say how you honestly feel may never come again, so I take full advantage of opportunities like that. I found that I end up feeling angry or resentful towards people when I fail to communicate exactly what is wrong in the relationship. I start punishing people for not guessing why I was hurt or what I needed. I have even ended past relationships because they didn’t meet my needs.
Speaking up for myself and setting boundaries in my relationships is not to control another person, but to gain control over my life. If I let people walk all over me like a doormat, then I will never find out what my purpose in life is.
If you are currently regretting not saying something to someone, pray that God will have your paths cross with that person. You shouldn’t have to go out of your way, God will do that for you. Don’t be afraid to speak up and stand up for yourself. But also, God will only let it happen if your motives are pure and not aimed at revenge.